Postnatal Depression: Where I Am 6 Months on from Having PND

For whatever reason, I’ve been a little reflective of my postnatal depression this week. I think it was down to the fact that I was actually on Twitter for the first time during a #PNDhour, (which is Wednesdays between 8-9pm) and I obviously got talking to a bunch of people about postnatal depression.So I thought I’d sit here and give an update on where I am now, almost 6 months after I first started experiencing it.

Postnatal Depression: Where I am Now

Personally I feel like it’s important to not only hear about people’s struggle with PND and the battle they went through, but also to hear something from those out the other side. After all, that’s what everyone wants, to be on the other side.

Postnatal depression was the reason I started this blog. Having postnatal depression without really knowing that much about it pushed me to writing about my experiences. Since I first published my story, and talked about it on YouTube, I’ve had quite a few positive responses. I hope that I’ve helped at least one other person. I know my place in the world, and I know I’m not exactly in the position to help loads of people, but if I’ve helped one then that’s something. It’s all about creating a ripple effect. That one person who you might help may in turn help someone else, and thus it can continue.

Ultimately though, and this may sound at least a little bit selfish, I’ve helped myself. To me that has to be the most important part. These days I feel so much better. I’m so glad to be where I expected to be when I first saw Isabelle. How I feel now when I see her, is what I expected to feel when she was placed in my arms. I haven’t forced it, I’ve let go of the stress, the worry and the expectation of what I should feel. And instead I’ve just allowed everything to happen. I always knew it would come, and for a while now, I can easily say that it has.

Selfie of us and the baby in black and white
Here we are these days

Depression is not a constant thing

My point here is going to be very simple: depression is not a constant thing. I think people get bogged down in the label of depression, and people often feel that when you have depression you are just always going to be depressed. But depression is not a constant thing. No emotion ever is. And, whilst we don’t really get much say in how we feel, we can help ourselves to feel much better.

So that’s what I’ve done. It wasn’t always easy, but I worked for this. I’m not lucky that I’m out the other side, I’ve earned it and I probably deserve it. All the mornings spent playing with Isabelle when I didn’t want to, the nights bathing her and drying her when it would’ve been so much less stressful to just let Rachel do it. Taking her away, constantly using the baby carrier and abandoning the pram, reading to her and all the other things I’ve done to create and build a bond have all paid dividends.

I know Depression is far more complicated than that

I’m not saying that all it takes to beat depression is the desire to be free from it. There’s much more to it than that. You can try everything you can and it’ll still be there. It has a horrible way of being like that. But I know from years upon years of experience, that it all starts with wanting to be free from it. And I mean deep down really wanting to be free. You have to find the motivation to get out of the dark place you find yourself in. This isn’t just about postnatal depression, it’s about depression as a whole.

This means fixing the things that you know don’t help. I learned a long time ago that it’s all down to me. Keeping myself on a healthy, low-sugar diet, getting regular exercise, limiting technology use, finding time to mediate or just breathe in and out for ten minutes with no distractions. It’s all a game of momentum. You get it going towards feeling good, you can keep it going. Does it work all the time? Will it rid yourself of depression quickly? Of course not, this might take a long time. But it takes persistence, discipline and something worth fighting for.

I can’t say I’ll always be free of depression, I know it’ll make the odd appearance every now and then, but I know how to handle it. When it comes I just accept that it’s there and know that it will pass. It’s as simple as that. But I think I’m free of the postnatal variety of depression. I can’t imagine myself ever disliking Isabelle ever again. I’ve always said that when I’m in a bad way, the only person I care anything about is my wife, Rachel. But now, I think I can add Isabelle to that small list, and that feels pretty amazing.

I know this isn’t the end of Depression for me

Despite my current positivity and the feelings I currently have towards Isabelle, I know depression is still lurking. At some point it will take over me again. It might even cause me to dislike Isabelle again. But I think I’ve grown to accept that depression is always going to come and go, I just have to learn to extend the good days and find more ways to stay ahead of depression. Right now, I feel like I’m well ahead of it. Let’s just hope it lasts.

As usual, here’s another vlog for this week. It isn’t the best, but I’ll get better:



I’m a 27 year old married father of one – soon to be two! I started blogging after suffering with postnatal depression when Isabelle was born. These days I just talk about my life as a dad.

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