Don’t get me wrong, and excuse the phrasing, but I love jumping balls deep into stuff. Once I like the idea of something, and I want to do it, I bloody go for it. Rachel once wanted to open a wedding dress shop, so I ran with that. Ultimately it didn’t pan out. But I don’t want to do the same with this. Home education is something we have to put a lot of thought into. And luckily for us, we have time.
So I’ve already done a post about what I love, now it’s time for one about my concerns. These aren’t necessarily my concerns. Some are just the concerns that people have in general when thinking about home education. No messing. Let’s go.
This is easily going to be a big concern. My only days off in the week are Tuesday and Sunday. So I might have to drop a day to be able to home educate Isabelle. Rachel currently works three days. And we will look at doing the same for her. If we both do it, we might be looking at a £700 or so drop in our monthly income. I’m good with money, but maybe not that good.
I dare say we could work something out. We might not really need to drop anything. One of the good things with home education is you decide when the learning is done. Does it have to be in the morning? Nope. Can it be on a Sunday? Obviously. I also think we’ll be in a better position financially by the time this comes around. So I really do think it will be fine.
I guess the idea that people often have of home educated children is one in which they don’t really spend time with many kids. But I know that’s off the mark. We can still take Isabelle to clubs, classes, sports teams and I dare say learning groups with other home educated children. I’ve only looked into it a little, and know there are some out there. But do have to dig more.
I went to school. Yet I hate socialising the vast majority of the time. I think a lot of it comes down to the fact that a lot of my socialising was forced. So now I resist it more. But allowing Isabelle to pick when and how she socialises will be of great benefit to her.
She also won’t be in her little bubble of just kids her age. Being surrounded by the same age children all the time can actually have a negative affect on children. This post is too long to go into that in further detail, so just read this awesome book. It’s helped to shape some of my parenting views.
Having a diverse social upbringing might bring out the best in Isabelle. So this isn’t really a concern of mine, more one that I other people might have.
Falling Behind In Her Learning
I’m not a professional teacher. So I don’t know how I’ll do when it comes to teaching Isabelle. I don’t want her being a few years behind other children when it comes to her core subjects. Usually you just have to send your child off to school and hope for the best. If it doesn’t work out, you can always blame the school. If it doesn’t work out for us, then we blame ourselves.
I personally think that’s a great thing. Having all the pressure on ourselves will make us take responsibility for it, therefore putting more effort in. The old proverb goes “A courtyard common to all will be swept by none.” In other words, if there are plenty of people involved, then it’s easy to think someone else will do the work.
I think we’ll be alright. I managed with my GCSE’s (4 A*’s and 6 A’s if you’re asking – still a postman though). So I dare say it’ll all come flooding back when I actually look it all up. And I’m all up for learning stuff in my free time to then be able to better teach Isabelle. I don’t think it’ll be that hard. Besides, if she does start falling behind we can always use something like Smile Tutor and just give Isabelle tuition online. Although this might be more of a thing we use when it gets to GCSE level.
And since when was it a bad thing to say to a child “I don’t know the answer to that, let’s look it up together!”
Missing Out on School Life
I’m not going to lie. I really enjoyed school the vast majority of the time. Well. I enjoyed lunch break, and then the lessons where you got to mess about a bit more. I loved the morning and afternoon bus rides, as it was basically time to clown around with your friends. So having Isabelle miss out on that might be a bad thing.
It’s also a worry that she might feel left out. Maybe I’ll take her to a sports team and everyone there goes to the same school. They’ll all be talking about something someone did that day in school and Isabelle could feel left out.
But I also feel that she won’t really know what she’s missing as she’s not going to experience it. And I dare say she’ll make her own friends at the clubs she goes to anyway. She can meet other home educated children and clown around with them instead. She might miss out on some good stuff, but she’ll also be missing out on the negative stuff too.
Missing The Downtime Ourselves
Let’s be honest. Some people love sending their children to school because it simply makes life easier. You get time to chill out and do whatever the hell you want during your ‘free’ childcare. I know they love it as I constantly see people moaning when it’s half term. They’re probably being a little facetious, but still.
I’m someone who likes time to myself. I don’t like having to be depended upon all day every day. That doesn’t sound like someone who might be a good home educator.
But I do get a lot of down time in work. My job is one of the least stressful jobs out there. I genuinely feel refreshed and reset after going to work, and I’m thankful for that. And I also know I can absorb myself into anything. So I think I’ll be fine with this. It’s not like it’s going to be any different to what we do now. Isabelle is literally with us all the time now, so it just means nothing is going to change.
When We Have More Than One
It’s one thing educating one child on a subject at their current level. It’s another thing when you have two and they’re both at completely different stages. What happens then? Of course things might get a little harder as you have to give them slightly different work.
I think this is a problem that sounds like it’s going to be harder than it actually is.
If we home educate Isabelle from the start, then we’re going to be used to it anyway. I’m guessing we’ll just adapt and go with the flow. If you were dropped straight into home educating two or three, then that might be different. But this will be a gradual thing.
Not Having ‘That Teacher’
I know a lot of people have teachers who have genuinely changed their lives. Isabelle will perhaps never get that. She will of course attend various groups, so perhaps a jiu jitsu instructor might have a great impact on her. This impactful person doesn’t have to come from school. They could come from anywhere. So again, I don’t really see this as much of an issue. I don’t know why I brought it up. It’s just a minor point really.
That’s About It… I Think
Well, I think that about does it. I’m sure there’s something that we haven’t thought about. But as Isabelle is only eleven months old, we have plenty of time to discover another spanner in the works. And the worst case scenario? We simply just send her to school.
I have no idea if you took anything from this, much like my other posts in fairness. This is just me rambling away, trying to put my thoughts and concerns into written form. If you have any other concerns that I might have forgotten,then feel free to let me know, either in the comments below or on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. I can’t be arsed to link to the social sites, I trust your ability to find me if you so wish. It’s @Isabloguk by the way.