Stay-at-Home Dad: My First Week as a SAHD

I’ve titled this “My Week as a Stay-at-Home Dad” but what it really should be called is “My Single Week of Doing All the Stuff That My Wife Has Been Doing for the Past 8 Months But With Added Moaning” but I felt that would be a slightly long winded title.

Looking after a baby is actually a lot like my day job. I’m a postman. I can see why you might think that has nothing to do with babies. But it’s an incredibly monotonous job. I do the same thing over and over again, and when I come in the next day, I basically hit repeat. That’s essentially what I’ve done this week. A lot of repetitive, monotonous, occasionally enjoyably work. That’s just life as a stay-at-homeย dad.

Week as a Stay-At-Home Dad: Day One

I’m not going to write a whole lot about this day purely because it has its own post. So in lieu of writing a repeat, here’s a picture:

Zone of Saftey - much needed as a stay-at-home dad
The Zone of Safety

That’s basically how I have things set up with Isabelle in the kitchen. You can’t be ready to catch them all the time, and giving her that ‘Zone of Safety’ as I’ve called it, helps protect them from the inevitable fall. Although in fairness, she doesn’t fall all that much these days due to the fact she’s pretty steady on her feet.

Week as a Stay-At-Home Dad: Day Two

I’ll admit that the novelty quickly wore off as I entered day two. Instead of all the nervous excitement of wondering what it was going to be like, I was left with the feeling of “oh, I have to do all of this again.”ย 

I also had the added aspect of having a lot of visitors, which, although it does break up the monotony of the day, does have the added part of giving me something else to think about other than what to do with Isabelle and when. Isabelle was, however, gifted with a Unicorn hat, here she is showing her excitement:

our baby wearing a unicorn hat during my week as a SAHD
Don’t worry, she takes it straight off as the girl doesn’t like things on her head!

I also realised that just because Rachel is home, it doesn’t mean that I’m done for the day. I still have to actually continue doing the whole ‘dad’ thing for the rest of the day. Not only that, I think the idea that Rachel is now done with maternity leave, and this is going to become a regular thing really did dawn on me. I started to hate the idea of it. I realised that my days off were now going to become babysitting days. Which I know I shouldn’t use the phrase babysitting, as a dad looking after his daughter isn’t babysitting, it’s just… well it’s just parenting. But in that moment, that’s how I felt. And I didn’t like it. That night, I knew the next day was going to be tough. I had already set myself up to fail.

Week as a Stay-At-Home Dad: Day Three

Wednesday morning I found myself really struggling, as I knew I would. I was short with Isabelle, I didn’t really enjoy being this stay-at-home dad, and I remember lying on the kitchen floor in the early hours of the day thinking “I really don’t want to be doing this.”

Then I got rather stressed whilst changing Isabelle after her bath. I got to the point where I felt like I had to put her in her cot so I could just have five to myself. So I grabbed the camera and tried to take a few photos, and ended up getting one that I love

A photo during a stressful moment of being a stay-at-home dad
Isabelle having five in her cot

In the end, I did what I always do these days, and turned to the blog to get some sort of release. Instead of writing about it, which would be difficult to do with Isabelle when she’s seeking danger, I did some videos and put it up on the Facebook page. All of a sudden I was getting quite a few comments of support and plenty of others being in the exact same mindset as I felt. Here’s the video:

After I posted it and got talking to others in the same boat as me, I started to feel better. That and a visit from Rachel’s mum which helped break up the day. By the time Rachel got home and we were into the night, I was actually looking forward to the following day instead of dreading it. This is why opening up and talking about how you feel is so important!

Week as a Stay-At-Home Dad: Day Four

I knew going into today it was going to be a good day. I had learned so much from the previous days, and I was going to take all that I learned and apply it to today. The main thing I had learned was centred around nap time. On Wednesday I was a little bit irritable when Isabelle would seem sleepy but then not sleep when I held her and rocked her. I would pursue the nap, rather than allowing Isabelle to do something else until she was actually ready. But not today. Today I simply let her be. I allowed her to dictate what we were doing and when she was actually visibly tired, I would start with the nap routine.

Our baby and our dachshunds
Isabelle trying to play, the dogs trying to nap

Week as a Stay-At-Home Dad: Day Five

I’ll be honest. Friday felt like just another day. It didn’t suck, and it wasn’t awesome. The true reality of being a stay-at-home dad (or parent in general) is that a lot of the days kind of repeat themselves. At this point in Isabelle’s life, and with no car, there’s not a whole lot we can actually do.

We did manage to get out and about again, which I’ll admit, I mostly do for selfish reasons. I walk a lot as part of my day job, and when I don’t get that exercise I do feel worse for it. So getting out, and listening to podcasts, does help me to reset and relax. It also helps that Isabelle tends to nap during this time, so it really is a win-win.

I also managed to nail the ‘dressing the baby’ part that most dads tend to struggle with. If you want proof, then here’s this:

A brilliant 'dressed by daddy' if I do say so myself
A brilliant ‘dressed by daddy’ if I do say so myself

Well I guess that’s it. I think I managed to mostly enjoy this week. I even managed to capture quite a few moments throughout the week and put them together in a vlog. It’s around 25 minutes long, so I’m not sure you’ll really want to watch it. But it’s more for me and Rachel to watch back when we’re a little older. Here’s my week as a stay-at-home dad:

 

 

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Ross

I’m a 26 year old married father of one. I started blogging after suffering postnatal depression when Isabelle was born. These days I talk about much more than just that.

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66 Comments

  1. 21st January 2018 / 8:54 pm

    You gained a new subscriber. I hope you enjoy my post as well. I will be tuned in!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      21st January 2018 / 8:55 pm

      Thank you! Hope you enjoy my stuff in the future ๐Ÿ˜‚

  2. 21st January 2018 / 10:42 pm

    I knew you will be fine ๐Ÿ™‚ glad everything is going well ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      21st January 2018 / 10:43 pm

      Thank you! I’ll have another test coming up this week with my wife doing a 12 hour shift ๐Ÿ˜ฌ should be fine though

  3. 22nd January 2018 / 10:20 am

    I agree with you about the blog being a bit of a break from the monotony. It does get easier as they get older and interact more with you and are able to go out and do more. #MondayStumble
    Nat.x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      22nd January 2018 / 10:28 am

      Yeah, I’ll just take the journey as it comes. I guess she’s always going to be changing from here on out

  4. 22nd January 2018 / 3:46 pm

    Loved your post. Isabelle is soooo adorable!!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      22nd January 2018 / 3:48 pm

      Thank you! She has her moments ๐Ÿ˜‚

  5. 22nd January 2018 / 6:55 pm

    Youโ€™ll get there I promise. I remember thinking, โ€˜if I have to do that puzzle one more time…..โ€™ but you do and itโ€™s ok. Think of it as your job; you are her Dad and itโ€™s ok not to enjoy all of it! My only other piece of advice is try to get out the house each day either to baby gym, swimming or just for a walk. You will both feel better, enjoy! #anythinggoes

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      22nd January 2018 / 8:12 pm

      Yeah, I’m going to aim to do an hour walk each time I’m with her, weather permitted of course!

  6. 22nd January 2018 / 7:30 pm

    We love the โ€˜zone of safetyโ€™ and my daddy used to do this with me. Going to pop over and have a look at the vlog to see how you get on. Donโ€™t be too harsh on yourself about the vlog editing. We rarely hit schedule!! #AnythingGoes x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      22nd January 2018 / 8:10 pm

      I guess, do you find the editing side frustrating? It’s been a bit of a pain trying to find the right editing software as so far I’ve just done everything off my phone. The latest one was just too long to be done on there efficiently. Thanks for reading!

      • 22nd January 2018 / 9:24 pm

        Yeah the editing does take time especially with little ones!! We use iMovie which is nice and simple for us. Fair play for doing it on your phone, that would be too fiddly for us, you must be a whizz now x

        • Ross Hunt
          Author
          22nd January 2018 / 9:26 pm

          I use iMovie too! Just the phone app version, then I had to use Filmora to be able to upload it. I dare say it’ll all trail and error x

  7. 23rd January 2018 / 10:49 am

    It’s a strange sort of bubble, isn’t it, being at home with a little one. And the days do sometimes blend into one! I love your point about your mindset being so important though, so often if we think the day’s going to go badly it does, but if we decide early on that it’ll be a good day then it often goes that way too! Love her Friday outfit by the way! x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      23rd January 2018 / 11:03 am

      Thank you! I love the multicoloured tights! They do match almost anything. And a lot of things we do in life is hinged on our mindset going in, and we’re our own worst enemy a lot the times. But we just have to keep learning I guess. Thanks for reading! ๐Ÿ˜€

  8. 23rd January 2018 / 4:59 pm

    This is my first time on your blog, and I’ve really enjoyed this post. Well done on surviving your first week as a stay-at-home dad. I barely remember those days with my first born that all seemed to blend into one and trying to fit mundane stuff around the dreaded nap time. My daughter’s arrival two years later definitely broke the monotony of it all. Soon Isabelle will be older and you’ll have this nailed in no time!
    #PointShoot

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      23rd January 2018 / 7:42 pm

      Thank you! And I’m hoping I get better at this and I enjoy it on a regular basis. Only time will tell.

  9. 23rd January 2018 / 10:18 pm

    it only gets worse when they get older and can start talking a load of crap! dread babysitting my nieces because they never shut up!๐Ÿ˜‚

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      23rd January 2018 / 10:19 pm

      I think I’d rather that at this stage. Hence why I do the videos, at least I can talk to the camera ๐Ÿ˜‚

  10. 23rd January 2018 / 11:32 pm

    Haha, this is soooo adorable. I have never heard the views from a stay-at-home-dad before, it’s quite enjoyable to read. I can’t wait for your next post, you’ve definitely gained a new subbie!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      24th January 2018 / 1:17 pm

      Thank you ๐Ÿ˜€โœ‹๏ธ

  11. mackenzieglanville
    24th January 2018 / 12:46 pm

    Those dogs I am in love! Days do repeat themselves with babies, I used to do anything to just get out and about so i didn’t go nuts, although I totally still went nuts! #pointshoot

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      24th January 2018 / 1:16 pm

      I will try to get out, weather permitted. It’s the evening that has turned into the hard part now. But that’s the next thing to get through, there’s always a new challenge I guess

  12. Spectrum Mum
    24th January 2018 / 1:52 pm

    I must say I love your absolute honesty on this and I am glad you have turned to blogging to help ease the long days. I can certainly identify with how you are feeling. Thank you for linking up to #PointShoot ๐Ÿ“ธ I loved the cot photo!!!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      24th January 2018 / 3:09 pm

      Thank you! And I’ll be back next week as I’m going to do a ‘our month in photos’ ๐Ÿ˜€

  13. 25th January 2018 / 9:06 am

    Oh gosh she is so cute! It sounds like you had really got into the swing of it by the end of the week and you’re right ‘oh we have to do all this again’ is pretty much life as a stay at home parent! ๐Ÿ™‚ x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      25th January 2018 / 9:29 am

      Yeah, I struggled a little this week when my wife went to 12 hour shifts. But that’s a good amount extra to what I did last week. Just another thing to get used to ๐Ÿ˜‚ c

  14. 25th January 2018 / 11:56 am

    They don’t warn you how monotonous it can be, do they? I can remember some days on maternity leave I was so bored thinking ‘Is this my life now?!’ But then they get older and start doing more and it gets less boring. Now mine is five and just answers me back all the time….! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Enjoy the early days, they soon whizz by! #sharingthebloglove

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      25th January 2018 / 5:25 pm

      I just have to watch I don’t wish the time away, and then suddenly find myself wondering where it all went. Thanks for stopping by!

  15. 25th January 2018 / 1:04 pm

    Rev T was a full time SAHD when the Tubblet was small and loved it. (So he tells me!) I suspect that your day is more typical than I’ll ever get him to admit. Good luck for next week ๐Ÿ™‚ Looking forward to hearing about it

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      25th January 2018 / 5:23 pm

      Well I’m back in work this week. Did have her all day on my day off on Tuesday, which was hard work. My wife works 12 hour shifts now when she’s in, so that’s a very long time with Isabelle haha

  16. 25th January 2018 / 2:31 pm

    It’s been a long time since I’ve been home with babies but I do remember I tried the stay-at-home mom thing with my first born and it drove me nuts. I went from constantly working then partying on the weekends to being at home with just a baby all day, every day. It was isolating and I love my boys but being at home all day with no adult interaction can take its toll. I did a lot of walking during that time and got he and I out as much as possible but by the time he was a year old, I decided to go back to school. That was a whole new adventure but it definitely helped with the monotony. It gets easier as they get older though. #anythinggoes

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      25th January 2018 / 5:22 pm

      Yeah, I’m trying not to wish away the time, but I’m also very much aware that this will be more enjoyable when she’s older and much more of an actual person. It’s been a learning curve, and one I’m still learning. Luckily I still do work, so it’s not going to be every day doing this. But my days off will mostly be just me and Isabelle.

  17. 26th January 2018 / 7:31 am

    Enjoyed the post and the videos. Dressing the baby was always the hardest part. As the get older itโ€™ll be โ€˜trying to do their hair in anything other than a ponytailโ€ that causes you most problems

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      26th January 2018 / 8:07 am

      Hadn’t even thought about hair. Probably because at the moment she has almost none ๐Ÿ˜‚ I’ll just convince her to shave it off, much easier

  18. 26th January 2018 / 2:41 pm

    My husband just went through the same roller coaster week with our little girl. Sounds like you did great and will continue to do great! Stay strong! #FabFridayPost

  19. 26th January 2018 / 3:02 pm

    I enjoyed the post and the videos. Glad you managed to nail the โ€˜dressing the babyโ€™ part .
    It took me a lot of practice too initially!

    #FabFridayPost

  20. 26th January 2018 / 11:10 pm

    My husband has been a stay at home dad for 18 months now and I know he struggles sometimes as well. I found the repetitiveness got to me when I was at home, so I tried to push myself to go out more and make things different. Thanks for sharing. #FabFridayPost

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      27th January 2018 / 5:55 am

      18 months! And here I am moaning about having a week of it! From here on out it’ll just be the odd day every week, so that’s a plus. Thanks for stopping by.

  21. diynige
    28th January 2018 / 10:21 am

    Sounds like you are doing great loved the vid Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      28th January 2018 / 12:10 pm

      Thanks for reading, and see you next week ๐Ÿ˜€

  22. 28th January 2018 / 5:07 pm

    Ow, ow, ow, ow! Haha your video! Being a stay at home parent can be pretty boring and each day can feel like you’re going through the motions, but your little one just loves being with you! Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      28th January 2018 / 5:45 pm

      Yeah I thought that might make a funny intro to the video since I had so many clips of me being hurt ๐Ÿ˜‚ and no problem, I’ll catch you next Friday ๐Ÿ˜€

  23. 29th January 2018 / 6:51 pm

    Well done on making it through! It’s a funny time when they’re that little – it’s adjusting to the monotony and the endless routine of the days that is difficult I always felt. It definitely gets easier once you’ve got your head into the right mindset, and even easier again once they’re a little bit older and you can do more with them. I know I really struggled adjusting at first, but once my little boy hit 15 months, I absolutely loved getting out and about with him on our days together. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      29th January 2018 / 7:06 pm

      Yeah, luckily I won’t have to do it all the time, it’ll be twice a week max, but when I’m doing it it’ll be an all day, 13 hour type thing ๐Ÿ˜‚ so quite the challenge when I’m doing it! See you next week!

  24. 29th January 2018 / 8:58 pm

    Ha I love your alternative title – being a SAHM I probably would lol. I find even now that mine are 2 and 3 the monotony is still very much there. It’s a weird bitter sweet as at times there is no where you would rather be yet it can be so dull and you yearn to do something else. #pointshoot

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      29th January 2018 / 9:48 pm

      I think it’s just about adapting to this new way and learning as I do. At times I don’t want to do it, but then I know I get some enjoyment out of it ๐Ÿ˜€

  25. 30th January 2018 / 11:07 am

    At this age it is all about routine and it’s how we keep sane doing it. I always found leaving the house every day helped me. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      30th January 2018 / 11:35 am

      Yeah that what I try to do, weather permitted. Either that or make silly videos, that seems to help!

  26. 1st February 2018 / 8:08 am

    Wonderful post – I love how honest your writing is – I really hear your voice. You are going through the same thing as most mums, when it really dawns on you how over-whelming parenthood really is. It does get easier though and I really look forward to hearing more about it x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      1st February 2018 / 1:30 pm

      It’s been an amazing, eye-opening experience. And one all fathers should go through to get a sense of what their partners do. Thank you for reading!

  27. 1st February 2018 / 12:09 pm

    Love this post. I remember the first day my husband had the kids all day and he said he seriously couldn’t do it full time. Sarah #fabfridaypost

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      1st February 2018 / 1:28 pm

      I think I’d struggle with it full time. I know I’d adjust, and I know I’ll still have to do very long days at least once a week, but I’m ok with that

  28. 2nd February 2018 / 5:52 am

    I love this! It’s so good to see and hear it from a dad’s point of view. And having to record everything I think it’s a great memory to look back on. Well done Dad of the week! Bravo you made it to the end o the week! lol!

    Thank you very much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost

    • 2nd February 2018 / 5:56 am

      p.s. I’ve subscribed to your YouTube Channel. Brillant work! x

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      2nd February 2018 / 12:47 pm

      Thanks for reading, and subscribing to the YouTube channel! I’ll catch you again for another link up

  29. 2nd February 2018 / 4:01 pm

    That photo of Isabelle in her cot is gorgeous. Being a stay at home parent can be so hard and the monotony of the everyday routine gets to me too sometimes. I mostly enjoy being a SAHM but I have to admit there are times when I find myself sitting on the kitchen floor (usually eating chocolate) and wondering why on earth I do it! Getting out of the house, even if only for a few minutes can often work wonders #sharingthebloglove

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      2nd February 2018 / 4:26 pm

      Yeah, it’s a hard one as it is enjoyable at times but also incredibly hard and draining. I guess I’ll get used to it though ๐Ÿ˜€

  30. 7th February 2018 / 1:43 pm

    The constant repetition and monotony is hard: get lots of toys (for your benefit, not just the baby’s!) #sharingthebloglove

  31. 14th February 2018 / 10:53 am

    Oh my days! How adorable is your little one! Makes the hard days worth it…kinda, sometimes, on occasion ha! I wasn’t a fan of maternity leave, day in day out with a baby, it literally sent me over the edge! It’s great to read a dads point of view, I really enjoyed it ๐Ÿ™‚

  32. Daddy Vs:
    7th May 2018 / 2:15 am

    Wow. Great story. It’s eerie how many similarities we have. Next month I am leaving my long time job in healthcare to be a SAHD for our second child, named Isabella. And based on your pictures, we have a dachshund too. I’ll be following along. Good luck!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      7th May 2018 / 12:25 pm

      Thatโ€™s crazy! I would happily be a SAHD full time, but I just do it a few times a week at the moment. I count myself as part time ๐Ÿ˜‚

  33. 13th June 2018 / 1:13 pm

    sometimes I think the repetitiveness is what hurts your sanity as a Dad, especially a SAHD. Thanks for sharing your week

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