My First Day as a Stay-at-Home Dad

Well I’m finally at the end of day one of being a Stay-at-Home dad for the week and I’m already thinking about the fact I have another four of these to go. Suffice to say, there’s a part of me that feels a little bit like this:

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Spending My First Day as a Stay-at-Home Dad

In all honesty though, it wasn’t actually too bad. The couldn’t have gone any easier. Isabelle loved the bath, something I haven’t done with her for a while due to the fact she hated being in there alone. She then got dressed without any problems, played happily, drained the breast milk from her cup and nodded off quite quickly with a little swaying and singing. The end result:

She then napped for a mere hour, and by 11 o’clock was up and raring to go. Yay! The next few hours went by quite well in fairness. I did some housework, purely so I could say that I managed to do it and make myself look really good. Then I fed Isabelle and even remembered to change her nappy. Basically I did parenting things. You know, the type of stuff my wife, Rachel has done every day for 8 months and not mentioned any of it. I do it for one day and turn it into a bloody blog post. Typical man. Please can I have my father of the year medal now?

It Wasn’t All Easy Work

Somewhere around two Isabelle really started to notice that Rachel wasn’t here. This is after all, Rachel’s first day back in work after maternity leave. She started to get a little irritable, and really just seemed like she wanted a good sleep feed on the boob. Milk from the cup just didn’t seem to cut it, and she didn’t want to be sung to, rocked, swayed, picked up or put down. Makes sense, right? She basically just wanted her mommy back, and who can really blame her.

So I just cracked on. I’ll admit, that I did put headphones on and carried on singing her to sleep. I don’t mind her crying and screaming on occasions, I’m just less fussed when it’s in my ear. I tried my best to drown it out whilst at least still being present with her.

Eventually it worked and she drifted off as she lovingly pinched my arm. Ten minutes later, Ralph, our one dachshund, came and snuggled up next to me before spotting a bird in the garden and barking at it. Suffice to say, in that split second moment, I was willing to do time in exchange for his immediate death. Fortunately for Ralph, Isabelle only stirred slightly and fell back asleep. Had she not, the sausage dog would’ve become a literal thing.

Overall It Wasn’t Too Bad of a First Day

Overall it’s been a draining day, but one that I mostly managed to enjoy. How do I feel about repeating this another four times? Well I’m not exactly enthusiastic about the idea, but I know solo parenting is going to be a much more frequent occurrence going forward. When I did that stupid 100,000 steps in one day thing that I did, I learned about looking at a struggle and trying to embrace it. I knew when I set off that it was going to take a long time, and likewise with this I know I have another 40+ hours of something that will at times be difficult. Can I moan about it? Probably not. I’m Isabelle’s dad, so this is hardly what you would call a challenge. This is just life being life. And I’m probably being a melodramatic arsehole by merely writing about this.

But I didn’t just write about it. I also filmed quite a few moments throughout the day and turned all of that into a lovely little vlog. So feel free to watch that here:

I have a lot of respect to the people who do this every day. I’ve done one day and I’ve almost written a post where I’m moaning about it. ONE DAY. My wife has done 8 months!

It’s also not like I’m going to be doing this on a full time basis. I’m what you might call a part time stay-at-home dad. I’ll be solo parenting on my days off whilst my wife does 12.5 hour shifts. Basically I’ll be in charge roughly 30 hours a week. I’m certainly counting that as being a part time stay-at-home dad even if others might disagree.

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Ross

I’m a 26 year old married father of one. I started blogging after suffering postnatal depression when Isabelle was born. These days I talk about much more than just that.

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44 Comments

  1. 16th January 2018 / 2:07 pm

    You got this!

  2. 17th January 2018 / 3:25 am

    “I am going to pretend that Isabelle had been difficult all day’ . Haha! Your ‘zone of safety’ is a marvelous idea!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      17th January 2018 / 5:29 am

      Even if you’re sat there watching them, it’s still hard to catch them from a fall. I let the pillows do the work 😂

  3. 17th January 2018 / 9:56 am

    Ha. I love this. Hard work, yes, but worth every moment. Three children here, all under five, and two extra children on the weekend. Fun. 🙂

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      17th January 2018 / 10:34 am

      That doesn’t sound like fun, that sounds like a nightmare! And yeah, this has it’s fun moments, not sure how much I’m actually enjoying it though 😂

      • 5th February 2018 / 2:20 pm

        It’s the little moments that count: the smiles, the giggles, the random cuddles just for the sake of it, the times they say ‘I love you’ and ‘You’re my best friend’. And of course, the times when they’re all asleep in bed 🙂 So peaceful. So quiet.

  4. 17th January 2018 / 11:03 am

    Enjoy! I gave up a career to be come the kids’ main carer back in 2011 and wouldn’t want it any other way (I accidentally launched another career when I started blogging about it but that’s another story!). When you little one is older I have one piece of advice: Take her swimming. I used to get a three hour afternoon nap out of our eldest when I did that. Over time you may find it a bit tough, it can be lonely being a SAHD but it is ultimately very, very rewarding and you are a trailblazer. Very few guys are doing what you are doing. You’re awesome, don’t forget it!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      17th January 2018 / 11:45 am

      I just have a week of doing this, and then I’ll be doing it on my days off with my wife in work. I’ll be honest, I’m not totally enjoying it at the moment. It has its good moments, but it’s very draining, especially since I like a lot of alone time. And she used to love swimming but we’ve hardly taken her for quite a while, would help if we had a second car running too 😂 thanks for the show of support too!

  5. Sarah - Mud, Cakes and Wine
    17th January 2018 / 4:35 pm

    Sounds like you did well and sure after a week you will have it nailed then when doing on your day off you can get up to some adventures 😀 #bloggerclubuk

  6. 18th January 2018 / 9:48 am

    Parenting is the toughest job in the world, mum or dad or both! I spent many days alone at home with my girls when they were babies and even as their mum it absolutely drained me. It is a lot easier when they are older and now that they are 12 and 6, they basically manage themselves which is great. You just have to hang on in there, you got this!

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    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      18th January 2018 / 10:51 am

      Had a rough day yesterday but very much on the up today! Big respect to those who do this all day every day!

  7. hampersandhiccups
    18th January 2018 / 3:16 pm

    Good for you! When your daughter is old enough, she’ll understand how important it was that you stayed home with her!
    #brilliantblogposts
    Katelynn, hampersandhiccups.com

  8. 18th January 2018 / 4:23 pm

    I enjoyed reading this! And it seems like your doing a good job of it. Might want to lose that dog though, haha 😆🌭 #ablogginggoodtime

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      18th January 2018 / 4:52 pm

      Luckily he’s been ok the rest of the week! Thanks for reading 🙂

  9. 18th January 2018 / 7:23 pm

    You sound as if you are doing a great job. Good luck and enjoy your time with your little one. #ablogginggoodtime

  10. 19th January 2018 / 1:42 am

    I’m sure you will do just fine. you will settle into a routine and all will be well. The most important thing is to just enjoy yourself. #AnythingGoes

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 6:26 am

      Had a bad Wednesday, good Thursday and hopefully a good Friday!

  11. 19th January 2018 / 6:53 am

    Good for you and being brutally honest. I’m a sure the when this is share with Isabelle later on in her life she will be proud of her daddy. Oh and you will both look back with a little laugh as you will havecgot into a routine #ThatFridayLinky

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 5:36 pm

      Very true. I’m hoping she can watch the videos when she’s older and get a laugh out of them 😂

  12. 19th January 2018 / 4:56 pm

    I think its good that you wrote this. More people out there need to realize that us men are more than capable of caring for our children, not because we want to “help” but because that is what parents do! #blogginggoodtime

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 5:35 pm

      Yeah the phrase “helping out your wife” is a stupid one. It’s the same with housework. I don’t help her out I just do housework😂

  13. 19th January 2018 / 5:07 pm

    I will always remember my first day minding my daughter alone — I was rigid with tension by the time my wife got home. And that was with no emergencies or traumas. It does get easier!

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 5:35 pm

      It’s nerve wracking being the one in charge and the one who is responsible for everything. But now I feel much better for it!

  14. Morgan Prince
    19th January 2018 / 5:24 pm

    I think I would’ve done exactly what you did if I’d had a blog when the boys were babies. Well done for coping on your first day – it’s tough and there’s no denying it.
    #brilliantblogposts

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 5:33 pm

      It’s been a hard week, but eventually I’ve learned to enjoy it. I’ve got a much better bond with Isabelle as a result now

  15. 19th January 2018 / 5:58 pm

    Fair play to you, it sounds like you did a fab job. It isn’t as easy as we make it look, is it? 😉 Just think how close you two will become as the weeks go by. You’ll have a little Daddy’s girl on your hands before you know it. Enjoy it, they grow up so blimmin fast. Mine is 5 now! *sob* #blogstravaganza

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      19th January 2018 / 7:59 pm

      In the end, the week has been pretty good, even if it was rather hard. I think I’d struggle doing this all the time, but I dare say I’d get used to it haha

  16. 20th January 2018 / 1:23 pm

    Looking after children all day is hard work, trust me I know! You will soon begin to reap the benefits though and it sounds like you did a fabulous job on day one! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      20th January 2018 / 2:56 pm

      I did awesome on day one, less so on day two, worse on day three and then picked it back up again. I realised you can’t be the perfect parent when you’re with them all the time 😂 x

      • 20th January 2018 / 9:58 pm

        Once you realise that, I reckon it’s half the battle! Some days I’m super mum, others days…not so much 😂 x

  17. diynige
    20th January 2018 / 6:26 pm

    Oh I remember that first day I did it, I was so nervous something would go wrong thankfully it didn’t. You survived mate well done Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  18. 21st January 2018 / 1:25 pm

    Well done! My first day on my own I’m not ashamed to admit I cried a lot, it’s flipping hard! It definitely gets easier and you find your rhythm after a while. I’ve completely been there on the dog front though, except my noise machine is my 3 year old – the number of times I’ve sighed and gone “Oh Max!” since my second son came along is far too many to count! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

  19. 21st January 2018 / 10:56 pm

    Sounds like you did good. You’ll soon get into the swing of it, yeah it’s tough, so freakin tough and dare I say it boring, it can be mind numbing at times, overall though I wouldn’t change it. #blogstravaganza

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      21st January 2018 / 11:09 pm

      Yeah I did ok in the end. It wasn’t a bad week all in all, and I feel like I learned a lot about Isabelle which is great 😀

  20. 22nd January 2018 / 6:57 pm

    Well done on surviving! That first day is never an easy one, but you will both soon find your pattern and routine. I always try and get out for at least some of the day, as I find that helps us both. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      22nd January 2018 / 8:11 pm

      That’s what I did on some of the other days, and found that it really did help! Thanks for stopping by

  21. Josephine
    23rd January 2018 / 10:17 pm

    You sound like you’ve got it.

    It’s nice to see a blog post coming from dad instead of mum.

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      23rd January 2018 / 10:18 pm

      Yeah I’m managing, just about 😂

  22. mackenzieglanville
    24th January 2018 / 5:28 am

    That Vlog was brilliant, I couldn’t stop laughing! I remember how much my arm used to kill me trying to rock them to sleep, or just stop them screaming for whatever unknown reason they were screaming Thank you for linking up #abloggingggodtime Also Catie from Spectrum Mum will no longer be hosting with Katie and I, we have a new co-host starting this week. So pop by on Thursday and join us xx You can still link up through me at reflectionsfromme.com

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      24th January 2018 / 5:57 am

      Ok thank you, not sure if I’ll be doing any other link ups this week. I’m a little short on time this week and only want to do them if I can fully commit. But I will try 😀

  23. 24th January 2018 / 1:35 pm

    Sounds like you coped better than I did on my first day alone haha! #thatfridaylinky

    • Ross Hunt
      Author
      24th January 2018 / 1:42 pm

      Yeah, the first day went well. There was a lot of novelty to it. I went a little southwards after that though 😂

      • 25th January 2018 / 5:10 pm

        Always ups and downs, try not to let it get you down though! 😊

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