Since it's currently #SelfCareWeek I thought I'd give a quick ten tips on things you can do to help promote self care. Feel free to try some of these things at some point if you want. Let's go:
I'll be honest. For us, it's been incredibly easy getting Isabelle to engage in as much tummy time as possible. Truth be told, she really isn't fussed on being on her back. She'll lie there, but unless you're changing her, playing with her legs or doing something stupid to amuse her, she doesn't like it. Instead, what she does want, is to be on her front. We've also been incredibly lucky that Isabelle has had really good neck strength from a very early age. Here she is a little under 4 weeks old, sat happily in her bouncer without the need to get held up:
Postnatal depression, much like depression in general, is a horrendous, crippling condition. But it's something that may have been developed over time to benefit our survival as a species. As much as we like to think we've come a long way since our ancestors of the Neolithic era, in reality, we're not that different. Of course, our technology has drastically changed, but underneath the gadgets and the gizmos we're still pretty much the same animal.
Having postnatal depression is crap. But, like many illnesses it's not just the person who has it who suffers. It's also the people that live with them that have to go through it as well. That's what happened to me. I didn't suffer from postnatal depression, my husband did. I'm currently hijacking his blog to talk to you about what helped us through his postnatal depression. Luckily for me, or maybe not, I've grown used to his depression. He's had depression pretty much most of our relationship, so I've been here before, but I wasn't prepared. At all. Knowing him, and knowing that this was everything he wanted, since very early on in our relationship, it was an incredibly hard thing to watch and cope with. Still to this day, I'm not quite sure how I didn't have a breakdown myself. Anyway, here's my five things to help with someone going through postnatal depression.
It’s something that not many people give that much thought to, but postnatal depression affects somewhere between 13-19% of mothers, and around 10% of fathers (numbers vary depending on the studies). That’s quite a lot of people. So what I aim to do here is give a few ways that I feel, either from my own experiences or through research, may alleviate, or in some cases help prevent, postnatal depression. Due to the fact that I am a father, some of what I’ll say here is aimed more at other fathers as opposed to the mothers, but the majority of it applies to both. Here we go:
For the men out there that are bracing themselves for the day your partner goes into labour, then know this: It will be the worst thing you will ever watch your partner go through. Not just because it’s utterly ridiculous how painful it looks, and dare say actually is, but there is nothing you can really do about it. And for a lot of the time, you won’t even feel like you’re wanted or needed there.